Etiquette, as we know it today, originated in France, in the Versailles under the reign of King Louis XIV, to be precise. At numerous parties and festivals, ladies and gentlemen had to observe a vast mLay of ugid rules regarding virtually every social nicety and all facets of life. The elaborate rituals of Versailles soon attracted many followers at other European courts. What kind of code of conduct is observed nowadays by the British Royal Family? What is the modern faux pas? And does an average bread eater have to wear a hat when invited to the Queen's garden party? Those as well as many other questions will be answered in the following article.
Majestic Ma'am
To begin with, it is necessary 12 emphasize that in the world of savoir vivre first impressions count. And when it comes to Queen Elizabeth II, there area tot of errors of conduct' that may irreversibly sildOfif your image itt an lattatit and turn you into a bull Jai a china shop. Fortunately, with English Matters at hand no royal is a threat. First of all, when the Queen enters the room, standing is a must. It is Cr11-cia! to be standing, not just standing up when the Queen crosses the threshold. The only person that was allowed In sit at that particular moment was the Queen's late mother. Secondly, during the very first meeting, the Queen is to be addressed Your Majesty, later on Ma'am. When the Queen dpuris, the humble guest must address her 'Your Majesty' again. Thirdly, if you do not come from Britain, you don't bow or cuts On the other hand. the British men are expected to bow their head; women are supposed to perform a curtsy - the right foot behind the left heel and a slight bend of knees. Furthermore, it is forbidden to touch the Queen or any other member of I the Royal family. Any I physical contact is exluded - no buys, no kisses on the cheek, o patting the shoulder. When someone from the royal family extends their hand, of 4 - course the other pciy should shake it, but the handshake can't be too hard, should be nice and gentle, and cannot last too long. Pumping the royal hrtitd is not allowed. Another rule to observe is as follows: don't speak litilm spoken to. A conversation with the Queen is started if she initiates it. During the conversation, it is inimmnly rude to ask any questions concerning Her Majesty's personal life or even her very famous grandchildren. Jggyg_r, it is unacceptable to change the subject. If you really, really have an uggg to ask a question, ask only the politest ones, such as 'Is your Majesty enjoying the performance?' Last but not least, remember about the formal dress code. There is no renuirement for women to wear hats or gloves. But if on the invitation, you are asked to wear a 'morning suit'*, be sure not to wear your favourite pair of jeans.
Tea Party
Sooner or later, at a royal party you maybe offered something to drink. As the country in question is England, it is highly probable that you'll be offered some tea. Is drinking tea at a royal tea party as easy-pea sy as drinking it in the privacy of your home? No, it isn't. First and foremost, do not extend your pinkie*. Place the iittinih on the lop of the ftottdLe. It will help you secure the cup. Looping fingers through the handle is a fauxpas. Similarly, do not hold the body of the cop with your guint. Sipping tea from the spoon is not allowed either. While sitting at the table, leave the saucer on the table. Lift only the cap. When you take a sip, concentrate on drinking. It is bad manners to drink and look around the room. The proper way is to lower your eyes and look into the cup. Another thing which needs consideration is adding milk, lemon or sugar to your tea. Mr Sugar comes first. Then, lemon or milk. But never lemon and milk together. While stirring your tea, do not clink your spoon attains the cup. The spoon should not touch the sides of the cop. Stirring means swishig the spoon gently back and forth. When you finish stirring, place the tea spoon on the saucer. Do not lay it on the table; do not leave it in the cup either. The teaspoon should he pot on the saucer, behind the teacup, not in front of it. Do not hold the cup, when you are not in the process of 'active sipping'. What if there is a itax with food to help yourself? In that case, reach for savouries first, then try the conen and finally girth some sweets.
To Dine or Not to Dine?
That was jots a tea party. What about a real lavish dinner with the Queen? Apart from certain obvious roles, such as not chomninu, closing your month while chcnviyg, taking only small bitesand not slurping, there are some more sophisticated commandments to obey. Your Majesty's guests start eating when the Queen starts eating. Similarly, they finish simultaneously with the Queen. Another role could be summed up as: Don't move! If you plan to be at the table with Queen Elizabeth, answer any calls of nature before dinner. Nonetheless, if there's a genuine emergency, leave the table when it is being cleared between engines. Excuse yourself without causing too much hassle.
Cutlery
Food is finally served. Smoked haddock Roulade of Goats Cheese with Caramelised Walnuts, Colchester oysters, Quenelles. Whatever it is, the cutlery etiquette applies. The most fundamental rule is to reach for the cutlery from outside in. When you have it in your hand, hold your spoon properly, as shown in the picture. Soup must be scooped from the plate outwards not inwards. It is a faux pas to put the spoon into your mouth; it is good manners to sip from it - from the side of the spoon, to be precise. When you've finished, the spoon's end lies at o'clock. Now, the time has come for the fork and the knife. The prongs of the fork, as well as the bide of the knife, are to face the plate. When you hold the fork, your index finuer should he straight; other fingers surround the handle. In the intervals - when you stop eating - put the fork at the side of your plate, not on the table.
Tying the Knot
A one in a million opportunity to test yourself on the royal etiquette was the royal wedding in 2011. Guests received 22-page-long guidelines on how to behave at the church and during the reception. Guests were instructed not to be late. Everyone was supposed to appear 20 minutes earlier. Queen Elizabeth's arrival at the church had to be acknowledoed with a bow or curtsy. Men from the Armed Forces were expected to wear uniforms. Other males - a boone suit or the aforementioned morning suit. Women were instructed not to wear anything skimpy and not to choose white or creamy clothes. Mobile phones had to he muted. A phone going of in the church would be the blonde r of all blunders. During the whole day, guests were expected not to tweet or update their Facebnok status. The guidelines also included the teacup rules as well as rules on how to drink champagne properly holding the glass by the stern. Staff had their own wedding code of conduct - being discreet, not looking at Her Majesty or any other royals while serving.
Is that All?
Are there any more rules? Yes, there are plenty of them. For example, the car manoeuvre - getting out of a car like a lady. Rules connected with the hierarchy of importance, such as, when in
motion the Queen goes first; everyone else including Prince Philip, strides a few steps behind. The toasting etiquette, with its do's and don'ts. But, despite what has just been said, it is worth emphasizing that even individuals who know or at least should know the protocol by heart, do commit blunders - just remember Michelle Obama and her famous hug of the Queen in 2009.